Once upon a time ( not too long ago, though), I was asked to list out fifty things I want to do/have/experience before I die.
It was easy, in a way. Listing out fifty things was real easy. There are too many things in this world that I want to do. More than fifty, in fact. And no, none of them are as hogwashy as “going on a vacation to the Bahamas with Aishwarya Rai”. Aishwarya Rai does not figure in my grand scheme of things. We would probably bore the shit out of each other anyway, me and her.
Nope, all of these things on my TODO list are very probable. They can be done. And I am not saying this to psyche myself up.
So what stops me from going right ahead? Lots of things. My life, as of now, is very routine. A nice, safe, well-paying job. A nice, safe, cosy house in a nice, safe city. Commitments. My family. Friends. My own laziness. Need I jeopardize this blissful existence of mine?
The way my life is going right now, this is how it’s going to turn out in the next ten years – A nice, safe, well-paying job. A nice, safe, cosy house in a nice, safe city. Maybe I will be married. Have kids. And then sit down and wait for them to grow up, so that they can make my dreams come true. Isn’t that what they say? “Make your father proud of you, son.”
Oh man! I am turning into what I hate the most! I am becoming Normal! My To-do list will probably stay that way throughout my life – “things TO DO”. Never done. Will I even think about it once I am thoroughly Normalised? Or will I find it someday and look at it and laugh over the idealism of youth…..and say something like “Aaaah, those were the days…”
Does this happen to everybody? Does everyone feel the need to do “something”, something that’s different, and once that age of innocence and idealism is through, does everyone become a part of this grand cycle of monotony until it’s time to die? Or is it just me?
I wish I could change the predictable turn my life is taking. I wish I could get some time in my life, when I could seriously sit down and figure out WHAT it is that would make my life more meaningful. And I really, really wish I can do everything I want to do before I die.
This sucks.
i wish my life wud take the predictible turn wherein i can look forward to a secure life with kids n spouse. i guess then i’ll long for tis present uncertainty…
:-)
“Predictable” is the key-word here. I hate to see my life going the same way as countless others.
“A secure life with kids and spouse” is all very nice, but i can’t believe I went thru all those years of torture and self-doubt (school, college, undergrad) just to live my life “normally”.
This does it. I will be off to Hampi(+Belur+Halebid) after The Rolling Stones concert next month! Visiting Hampi is at 50th spot in my 50-things-To-Do list… Considering that I have only 6 more years to live, I have to rush!!
Considering that I have only 6 more years to live
:-O WHAT IS THIS????
Beyond age 30, I dont see any Life(as we know it)! In your own words, I have to sit down and wait for my kids to grown up. Isn’t it?
So, If you do simple math, I have only 6 more years to live my life.
But travelling is something u can do with your wife and kids too…..
Yes! One can. And I too will.
But, the point is, I won’t be having so much money to blow up then as much as I do on things I wanted to do now, which brings me to the conclusion, No Life after 30.
There are quite a few things I want to do before I die, I like the uncertainty to it all though. For example, the suspense to weather I’ll fall in love, get married, have kids have a show of my works, write a book, scuba dive whatever.. curious to know when, but let it come it’s nice to not know… in the faith that it’ll all surely happen.
what i was talking about is about doing certain things – without having to worry about whether this would affect my personal life, or my “career”, or basically interfere with the normal way most of us live…..it’s not possible, for instance, for me to think of hitch-hiking to someplace like Kathmandu…but i do think of it, and i KNOW it’s not gonna happen.i can’t just take a break from what i am doing and do things i really want to do….
guess it’s a matter of priorities…
figure them out, keep to them, just do it… it’s better that way so you won’t feel sick when you go where ever it is just incase the statement “we all have just one life to live” is a myth.
on the contrary, life is suffering but whatdyo have to lose to just smile on? preconditioned acting soon becomes conditioned and you wouldn’t give a damn about not being able to do whatever you hoped and just breeze through whatever we call this life without analysing or planning it too much. phew! (please excuse me ;))
“Prioritise!” is getting to be something I say to myself every other day.
But again, the whole act of prioritising…it’s tough because i have to think of my priorities as part of a big Set, the boundaries of which have already been decided.
There doesnt seem to be any way i can expand that boundary.
have you ever thought about what rules and boundaries are for?